They might think you're not doing enough to attract a guy. They have all sorts of advice on how to nab yourself your next boyfriend.

But what if you're not actually looking for someone? Is it so hard to believe that some of us single girls actually like being single? Some of us have been through incredibly hard break-ups and need some time alone to recover and recuperate.

When you've been through a break-up and find yourself single after a fair amount of time being a couple, it's just nice to spend some time on your own. It sounds like a cliche. but getting to know yourself after you've left a relationship is quite important and can take some time.

So, friends and family, listen up! Just because someone you love is single, she might be perfectly happy that way. Constantly asking her if she has found herself a man is not only annoying, it's a little condescending.

Can't she function in your eyes on her own? Why does she need a man on her arm to be complete? And if you see her chatting to a guy at a party don't assume she's interested in him or even flirting with him. He might just be a nice, interesting guy that she wants to talk to: that's it, nothing more. So running up to her the first chance you get to

ask her if she really likes him is again a bit annoying.

Sure, sometimes society seems structured for couples, and being single has its downside, but being single has benefits too - like feeling completely free to do whatever you like, whenever you like.

It is only natural to want to find love, and we spend a large proportion of our lives doing just that ... but sometimes a single girl just wants to be single and it would be nice if people realised we are not all on the hunt for a man.

JD

Are you happily single?