It gets the point across and, in most cases, the other person soon realises the feelings are not mutual.

But what's wrong with having the guts to tell people how we really feel? A guy who "says it like it is'' has become a rare find.

Usually men just don't respond to your text messages or emails. They think it's OK to leave you hanging.

I don't really have a problem with that if it happens very early in what could be a relationship after a pash and dash or a very casual coffee date, for instance.

But if you've shared any more than that it's not really very cool.

I've read the book He's Just Not That Into Youand I get it. Sometimes a guy will NOT BE INTO YOU! But do guys think we won't understand that? Do they really think we are such fragile little petals that if they say they're not interested in us we'll fall apart and be devastated?

Guys, get over yourselves! Girls these days are tough and strong. Most of us have experienced some pretty ordinary treatment from a guy.

I can't speak for everyone, but I'd much prefer a simple text message or email that said: "Hey, it was great to meet you and hang out. I think you're cool but I just don't see anything happening between us.''

Seriously, it is that simple. Most of the time we girls just want to know where we stand.

Do guys even realise that girls spend time stressing over whether we should send a message to the guy we like? That we worry about what he thinks of us and regret sending that third text before he had responded to the first two.

I know that a guy's brain operates on a different level. Even my friends with long-term boyfriends moan that their boys don't always respond to their texts. But knowing they are different doesn't really help.

We still stress, we still don't want to be ignored.

So please, guys, pick up your phone and text, or better still, call that girl back and explain to her what's going on with you. Because if you ignore her, but you actually do like her, she'll think you're using the "ignore them and they'll go away'' tactic and give up on you.

If you are trying to end things with her, well, then I guess you have the choice as to what type of guy you want to be.

Are you the type of guy who tells it how it is and doesn't make a girl guess how you're feeling? Or do you prefer to leave girls second guessing themselves until they work out that you're a gutless idiot who can't even be bothered sending a text. Up to you.

JD