You remember all the amazing things about them and reminisce about all the wonderful things he said and did.

Then you imagine what it would be like to be with him again and all the possible scenarios that could bring you back together.

The things he'll say to you when he realises he made a mistake and, of course, you are the best thing that had ever happened to him in his life and he was such a fool to let you go.

You fantasise about your future relationship together and certainly it is incredible and amazing...because it's all in your head.

You have created the ''fantasy man''. Sure, his character is based on a real person, but the rest of it is

fiction and impossible for that real man to live up to!

You wonder why it's so hard to let him go, why no other man seems to live up to him, why every time someone disappoints you, your brain reverts to thinking about him again.

The ''fantasy man'' is a product of too many movies, too many romantic novels and far too much time lying alone in bed with your iPod blaring love songs.

He was first created by your teenage self, the boyfriend you always wished you had. The little dreams you created back then as a kid with your Barbie and Ken stick with you throughout your adult life.

I'm a dreamer, a romantic, but sometimes you need something to bring you back to reality.

Don't set the bar too high because in the real world everyone has flaws and no one is perfect. Sometimes, it's the those little flaws that are the most endearing qualities.

The ''fantasy man'' is not just relevant to guys you have dated.

When you first meet a guy you can go home with all sorts of ideas about who he is, but be careful not to let the ''fantasy man'' take over because if he does not turn out to be the guy you have imagined, then you

are the one that will be disappointed.

Newton Faulkner sings a line in one of his songs: "one day I guess Ill be the man that you think you see". I think he's talking about potential, but I cant help but wonder if he's trying to meet someones expectations.

It can be really tricky when it comes to letting go of your ''fantasy man'' if he was an ex-boyfriend.

Because the memories are real. Even the possibilities could have been real.

So, I guess the only thing you can do is remember it didn't work out for a reason.

Don't only remember the good times, but remember that sometimes things weren't actually perfect.

-JD